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Ah its about time I got my lazy self out and doing something. As the months go by I found my self learning more and more about what really goes on in gaia. I have to admit at first I got the impression that it was a place where teens and pre-teens came to hit on the opposite sex all while acting completely ridiculous. I joined this community never really knowing what it was about. Lucky I found that I fit in quite well here. Sure I may get flack for being older than most people but I don't let it bother me. Between my anime, video game and D&D collections I can converse with anyone one Gaia and hold my own. The fact that there is an small age gap just gives me that much more reason to help out those around me. Everyone has problems and the fact that I have been though many of them myself, I feel like I can really help from time to time.

Often I see self-esteem being a big issue in the lives of our fellow gaians. This hurdle is something that all people have to suffer in there lives. Everyone has felt in adequate in some way. This does not have to rule your life. People are very different in there unique way. What really bothers me is children 13 and younger feel like they are ugly and have nothing to offer. These kids are pushed too much by the media and are
1) looking to get into a relationship far to early
2) forced to feel like they are not special if they do not look like movie stars.

What they don't know is that they have a lot of growing up to do. It is going to take years before they can know how truly beautiful they really are. Yet the fact of the matter is that they are still children. They need to play and have fun. Trying to grow up too fast is just going to lead to pain and frustration. I suggest not to try to get into a relationship untell they are at least in high school or later. There prim focus should be on themselves. They need to have goals and aspirations. They need to find the thing that makes them feel good about themselves. These are the years where they need to nurture there natural talents and break themselves off as individuals. If they try to tie themselves to a relationship to early it can actually damage them. Say they do fall in love at there age and stay together for years. They have just denied themselves to truly find out who they are or what they are truly capable of. Once you are in a relationship you really can no longer make your own decisions. Your tie is shared time. Your decisions are shared decisions. IT is a selfish thing to do when you go off and do something that you always wanted to do while your in a relationship without first considering how your partner fells about it.
When you are young you do not need that burden. Further more if you don't know how to deal with your own problems why would you want to add someone else problems on top of your own.

Everyone wants to feel special and every one wants to feel loved but you must learn to love yourself first. You have to truly understand that you are someone who is important and amazing. You cannot let what other people tell you determine who you really are. If you don't know how the heck could they possibly know.

Well I think this was a productive post. I hope I don't feel the need to rant about it again. if anyone has any questions or comments feel free to write. smile