Alright, so...
I was dumped about a month ago. This is awkward because the last post I made was about our six month anniversary..
Somewhat ironic, I guess. Anyways.
Just wanted to post and let people know that I'm single.
I'm not looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend/fling, or anything else like that, I just thought it would be best if I posted it instead of leaving my last post be about a six month anniversary.
He dumped me, had good reasons, and we're still really good friends.
I really miss him, and wish I was still his girlfriend, but there's nothing I can do about it. He had many reasons for breaking up with me. One of them was "I'm sorry, but I just don't feel that way anymore.". Which I understand, and know that I can't do anything to change how he feels about me. You can't and Shouldn't force yourself to like somebody.
I'm still very hurt and depressed over the break-up, and I'm completely 100% still in love with him. <:
I'm trying to get over him, but it's good to give yourself time to get over something like this. But don't wait too long, otherwise it could really make things...difficult.
And don't rush yourself to get over something, because that also can make things difficult. Also? I don't think it's okay, or good, in any way at all, to use somebody as a rebound (Boy OR girl), and I don't think it's okay to date someone who's relationship with somebody else Just ended (Weather they were the dumpy or the dumper!).
I've learned this from past relationships.
Another thing that you want to not do too soon in a relationship is say the L-word. Yeah...love. That can't be rushed, either. Under any circumstances.
Love is a delicate thing, in any sort of relationship.
You have to cherish and treasure the other person/people in such a way that..you really Do need to give it time.
And don't pressure them to Do anything or Say anything. That's just not okay. Pressure is never fun.
Mending a broken heart can take a very long time sometimes, other times it can take only a small amount of time.
But don't feel bad if it doesn't take you too long to get over a break-up, it doesn't mean that you didn't care for the person, or anything like that. It can be okay to get over break-ups in only a few weeks. Don't feel bad about taking a long time to get over a break-up, either. However long it takes you, try not to beat yourself up about it.
Here are some tips!:
1. Try and have some distance from the other person. Give both of you time to get over it, and calm down a bit. Stick with maybe some texting, a little bit of talking over the internet (Emailing, facebook, myspace, ect.), stuff like that. Maybe not talking to them on the phone would be best.
2. Try not to date anyone else too soon after words. Instead, focus on your friends and your family.
3. Go out with your friends/family! GO HAVE FUN! mrgreen It really will help you out a lot.
4. Try not to listen to love songs, or songs that make you sad, because that tends to only make you feel worse.
5. Sometimes, trying to be friends with your ex doesn't work out....if that happens, try to end the friendship on good grounds, instead of becoming enemies, or hold grudges.
6. Talk to the other person about it, make sure that you both understand everything about the break-up. Basically, make everything clear.
7. Weather you're dumping someone, or being dumped, it really can hurt a lot. Remember that it's not always something you Did, or something you Said, it may just be that the other person's feelings have changed.
8. Try not to put blame on anyone, yourself including. Sometimes? It's no-one's fault.
Well, that's about all I have to say. 3nodding Peace, you guysss!
~max1320~ *Makes peace sign*
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