What do you do when a friend asks how their exbf is acting like an a**?
A. Should you tell her why he's an a**?
B. Should you tell her to figure it out herself?
The answer is B.
She's an adult and can make her own choices. Yes, you're a good friend to be concerned with her well-being, and it is within your right to tell her how you feel. That doesn't mean you should. She obviously isn't over this guy, so even if you could convince her not to get back together or that her life isn't over if she's not with him or for some other reason, she'd always wonder if they could've made it work, and she'd always blame you for not finding out. So if this guy is really is an a** then she needs to learn it for herself. The most indelible lessons are the ones we learn from our own mistakes.
Also, just because she bitches about this guy doesn't mean you should. If she asks what you think of him, resist the urge to bad-mouth the guy. It just makes you look like a jerk, and she will end up resenting you when they get back together, which they will. She'll tell him what you said and they'll both agree that you're the loser, not him, and then there goes your friendship.
The best thing you can do as a friend is to STFU and let her make her own mistakes and be there to help her pick up the pieces when she does.
 DamnBlackHeart · Wed Feb 24, 2010 @ 06:35pm · 0 Comments |
